Strive for progress and not the popular misconception of being perfect. There seems to be a lot of pressure on having a perfect image, but let’s get real – is this achievable? In my opinion, perfection doesn’t exist and society puts way too much pressure on having that ‘perfect’ everything. I think that we should work to change that and choose to continue to improve ourselves (for us and not the approval of others), and not strive for something that isn’t real, rather things that are actually attainable and bring happiness into your mind, body, and soul.
This is for everyone, but especially women and mothers. Nothing about motherhood is perfect. And God knows, even if you try it’s still not perfect. When I imagine perfect, I can almost feel the boredom seeping through my mind. Why would we want that? Life is about making mistakes and the crucial step is, learning from them. There’s a difference – if you’re constantly making mistakes and not learning then you’re going to hit a wall and we all know how that feels. You have to choose to learn. You have to want to learn for you to be able to move forward.
When you fail at something look at it as an opportunity instead of just a failure and allowing yourself to get stuck in the same place. Take the opportunity, try again and turn it around. Once you put in the effort, your failures will soon become accomplishments.
Now that I’m a mother, I can without hesitation say that this is the hardest job on the planet 110%. Do I make mistakes? All the time. Is my house in order every second of everyday? Not even close. Is my laundry done all the time? Nope. And there’s really no end to this list. As I’m typing my blog, my son is climbing everything and I keep getting off my seat so I can bring him down. He’s throwing all of his toys everywhere. He’s screaming and babbling so loud that I can barely hear myself think. Every 10 minutes he wants to breastfeed so at some point I’m typing with one hand. And he keeps disappearing so I have to get up and go find him every 5 minutes. And this is a constant until he naps. And his napping can be 45 minutes, an hour, or maybe even three hours if I’m extra lucky that day. So, here I am trying my best to be the ultimate best version of myself, but I’m making mistakes along the way and I’m learning from them and moving forward. Mistakes will never go away. They are always there like speed bumps to remind you to slow down and take it one step at a time.
Don’t compare your progress with someone elses. You don’t know the struggles the other person had to go through to get where they are now. You need to remember this – it’s okay to grow slow. Everyones journey is different. Your only competition should be yourself and that’s all you need.
To all the mommas that are in a rut or stuck and need motivation and love – take care of your babies at your own pace and in your own way – don’t forget to love and take care of yourself too as you are just as important. They need you and you need them. Challenge your own self and not others around you (especially strangers on the internet) because that’s what’s going to help improve and make yourself better. I think the first thing we should do together is start focusing on our own journeys and start believing in ourselves because we can do it. I mean of course we can, we grow little humans in our tummies for 9 months and then give birth to them – that sounds like superpowers to me 🙂
One of the most powerful and beautiful things that I get to see online is women supporting women especially in the motherhood colony. It’s amazing to witness and be a part of and remember that you all have my support and love.
I hope that you are all having a beautiful and productive Wednesday wherever you are in the world.
With lots of love,
Mariam
Marvelous Momma 